Feeling defeated: Recovery tips and how to handle it

by Fransic verso
Feeling defeated

Hello everyone and welcome to another post for this weekend. Well, this is my first post of the new month. I hope you guys are doing well. And Happy new month. It couldn’t get any better to talk about today’s topic on the second day of the month. I’m going to share about feeling defeated. Something you might have gone through it before in your life. This would be one of my favorite topics to talk about.

I love when sharing about self-development and things that I learned over the past years. There will be more information about this topic. And I’m going to share answers to a few questions as well. Keep reading to know everything about feeling defeated and how to recover to succeed. So much more will be on this post and if you find it helpful, please share it with others. I would appreciate that a lot.

Feeling defeated: Recovery tips and how to handle it

Before I start talking about the topic. I want to lay out some important details. It’s like the base that can help to build up until the end of the post. So, when we talk feeling defeated. This post will cover both being defeated and feeling defeated. I want to talk about the moment of getting defeated and after it. Because it’s not going to go away fast. Also, I’m going to share factors that can play a big role in the duration of having that feeling.

Well, this usually happens to people who always fight. You would get defeated multiple times but there is a way to maintain and keep going. Which I want to talk about in this post. The recovery process might take a while depending on the purpose of your feeling it. Let’s know more about it in this post, shall we?

Q: What does it mean to feel defeated?

A: I’m sure most of us know about it. But it’s a feeling that comes when you are beaten in something. Mentally, you feel hopeless and lost the battle against something. And it also can be from feeling overwhelming to the point you feel like you are capable of working or doing things.

You might also notice that you have it when you feel drained. And you don’t have the energy to keep doing it anymore. Some people might see you and be like “Don’t feel defeated”. This is common and happens to a lot of people. Including myself because I’ve had this for over a month before.

woman not feeling well.
Photo by Liza Summer

Important point

I don’t know who needs to know this. But you deserve more and better than you think. Being defeated or feeling it could be a reason for you not to achieve that. So, it’s very very important to determine and be aware of the feeling. You need to be able to tell if you are going through it or not.

Then, you need to go through the process step by step slowly. This way, you push yourself back and maintain good strength. At the end of this post, I’m going to share these simple and easy-to-do steps. No matter what or why you are going through the feeling. Because you would know what to do.

symptoms to know if you are being defeated

  • Disappointed
  • Lacking the motivation to do anything anymore
  • Thoughts in your mind of being incapable
  • doubting your skills and talents in doing something
  • Fallen
  • The feeling of crushed
  • Feeling that you are overpowered by something or someone

There are so many things that indicate when you having that feeling or going through it. Such as feeling discouraged which wasn’t on the list above. However, you need to determine and be aware of it. This way, it will help you to work on yourself and improve. You can see when the doctor tries to deal with your pina, first, need to know the causes and the pain.

One of the best ways to recover is by reading quotes. It’s the best reminder for me when I feel it. So, I want to mention some of the quotes here.

If you hear a voice within you say, ‘you cannot paint’. Then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced. — Said by Vincent Van Gogh

Tough times never last. Tough people do. — Said by Robert Schuller

I prefer to die fighting than living defeated. — Said by Luigina Sgarro

Defeat teach us us life’s most valuable lessons. — This is a Chinese Proverb

Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat. — Said by F. Scott Fitzgerald

To be defeated and yet not surrender, this is victory. — Said by Jozef Pilsudski

I can keep adding more and more quotes endlessly. But these are some of my favorite quotes about being defeated or going through the feeling of it. These are always good reminders during difficult times and downfalls. Because will be ups and downs all the time. Something I highly recommend is having as many as possible of these great quotes.

Q: Is feeling defeated an emotion or not?

A: Good question if you have this in mind. Well, it is a feeling that we would feel. And it’s a combination of more than one feeling. Such as hopeless, discouraged, and others that I mentioned. Something you should also know is that you can overcome it with easy steps.

man lying down not feeling well.  Feeling defeated
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Q: How long it would take to recover from it?

A: Yet another good question. Glad you had this in mind. It took me about a month to recover. However, you might not have it as bad as me. So, it all depends on what you fighting and what got you to feel it. Also, how much effort you put into it recovering can help with the speed of recovery. From a week to several weeks and maybe months.

How to know if I’m Feeling defeated

There are a few things that you need to pay attention to that can help you to know whether or not you are feeling it. Sometimes you could go through and you didn’t even know it. So, here are some of the things that can help you to know about it. Because it’s very important to know to deal with it. Don’t let it destroy the dream you have in your mind.

Stopped doing what you and focusing on other things.

First before saying anything. I want you to know that changing the way of doing things is not changing your focus on other things. It is still the same target but different way. If you find yourself trying to focus on something that is not what you’ve been focusing on for the past days, weeks, or even years. That could mean you gave up and that only indicate one thing which is defeated.

Even if you think it’s impossible to get it. Keep trying and maybe change the way. It was impossible with the way you going about it. Many people in the past did the impossible and now they are history in books and some of them on the internet. We never know until we try every possible way.

Being distracted with entertainment and fun things instead of working

It’s so much fun to be distracted playing games. Going to the theme parks or even to the clubs for drinks. Anything fun but the work we are supposed to do. Surely everyone would notice it’s defeated and it’s not good because it will hold you from being successful and living your dream.

These are two things besides the feelings and things that I mentioned above, Which are the symptoms that can help you to know about it. And from that, it will help you to know how to handle it. If you know the reason, it would be easy to deal with it and heal yourself to get better.

How to recover from Feeling defeated

Now, the part that you’ve been waiting for. I want to share some important tips to help you recover. Although the process might take the time it’s possible with anyone. YOU can overcome it and recover to keep working and achieving your goals. These simple tips will help you with that.

Focus on yourself in the recovery process and admit it

It’s not a shame to admit that you are defeated. Because you will need to remind yourself about it while you focus on recovery. Stop worrying about anything and just focus on yourself. Treat yourself to a good massage, and spend time with yourself. Meditate and do Yoga.

Read more on the blog: 40 questions for self-discovery you should ask yourself

But, you need to do the second one while you are not worrying about anything. Well, if you get distracted completely and forget about it. That is not recovery and more like giving up and doing other things. The idea of focusing on yourself is not to worry and gain entry again.

Get that momentum to fight back and rest well. Because you are not done yet from the defeat of one battle. You still can win and achieve your goals.

Remind yourself every day and plan a comeback

While you resting, make sure to keep reminding yourself about the positive things when you achieve them. When you win that battle, what good will come from that? Also, remind yourself why you need to do it(the good side of that is the “Why” can help to achieve your goals and win the fight).

Meanwhile, you are enjoying yourself, don’t lose sight of the bigger picture. Spend time planning your comeback. And it should bring stress or worry you. Take your time to think of all possibilities and ways to handle everything. Remember everything will be ok and you can do it.

Surround yourself with family and successful people

hugging each other.
Photo by Thirdman

Don’t isolate yourself from your family. Well, I’m sure your parents wouldn’t want bad things to happen to you. Maybe you have a nice brother to talk to. Even sisters can be helpful to talk to and help you get out of that feeling. Family can include aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, and parents. Grandparents or grandmothers. No way, there is at least one with a good intention to help and listen to you. Someone who can understand you even if it’s a friend.

Read also: Creativity in planning and tips for planning and accomplishing

Another thing is having successful people around is going to lift you well. Trust me, these two are important for the recovery process. But make sure not to be around the ones who would make it worse. Even if it’s a family member. Might not be wise when you trying to lift yourself.

Use journaling to help you recover

If you didn’t know that writing down problems and solutions can help. Whatever journaling method you do, try it when you resting. Write your new comeback plan. Reminders to read them and help you improve your mental health/ So many good things come from journaling.

Some people use the journal for everything. So, going back to the good things in your journal will help to lift you and cheer you. Make you remember that things get worse and get better, nothing last forever. That’s another good way to use journaling to help recover from feeling defeated.

Conclusion of Feeling defeated: Recovery tips and how to handle it

pinnble picture. Feeling defeated

Thank you for reading until this point. Sharing things about being defeated. And how can you recover from it to keep going and succeeding? Hopefully, you found this helpful and please don’t forget to share it with others. The more people know about it, the more we can help others.

Have you been through this feeling before? How did you handle it and what did you recover? Share with us your experience and may help others that read the comments.

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84 comments

Gabby April 2, 2023 - 12:31 pm

It is too easy to feel defeated these days. I love the positivity in this post. My favorite quote you added in here is “to be defeated and yet not surrender, this is victory” I could live by that.

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:59 am

Thank you so much! I’m glad you found it helpful. That quote is awesome.

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Stay Fit And Calm April 2, 2023 - 12:59 pm

Such a nice post with valuable quotes. It helped me a lot. Thanks for sharing.

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:58 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your feedback. I’m glad it helped you.

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Ranjana April 2, 2023 - 2:44 pm

Wonderful, inspiring post

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:57 am

Thank you so much!

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Julie Russell April 2, 2023 - 2:57 pm

Great, informative post! Feeling defeated is a relatable topic and I enjoyed reading your point of view. Good idea talking about the basics with what it is and what it looks like and ending with how to recover. I look forward to reading more articles!

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:57 am

I’m glad you enjoyed reading it. Thank you for reading and sharing your comment with us.

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Lauren April 2, 2023 - 3:20 pm

These are some great points and suggestions to help. I do like to have a bit of a putty party, have a rant and then pick myself back up and keep going. Thank you for sharing.

Lauren – bournemouthgirl

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:56 am

That’s awesome, its good to know what you need to do. Thank you for reading!

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Debbie April 2, 2023 - 4:39 pm

Very insightful post on how to handle feeling defeated and recovery tips and ideas. I particularly like the idea of journaling. When I’m overwhelmed in life – I like to write out my thoughts and I feel so much better.

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:56 am

Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts about this. That’s awesome, journaling is good.

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Cinny April 2, 2023 - 5:33 pm

This is a really good perk me up post. Honestly, it’s so frustrating to try to do the same thing over and over again, but sometimes, pushing through helps.

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:55 am

Right? it’s good to push through. Thank you for reading!

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Olga April 2, 2023 - 6:32 pm

I feel defeated this week. It feels like everything is falling apart. I tried to isolate myself but as you said, it doesn’t work. Now my best cure is finding support in online communities.

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:53 am

Yeah, that’s awesome you did find good support. Thank you for reading!

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Marysa April 2, 2023 - 6:59 pm

It is good to have some ways to get out of a slump. These are wonderful tips to help turn things around.

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:52 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your lovely feedback!

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Jodie April 2, 2023 - 7:27 pm

Great post Fransic! The quotes are very inspiring.

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:51 am

Thank you for your lovely comment and glad you found them inspiring!

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Ranjana April 2, 2023 - 9:17 pm

Recognising the symptoms and then the recovery process may take time and keeping family and friends close always helps when we are feeling defeated. Good, informative post.

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 1:51 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your comment about this.

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khoingn | The Broad Life April 3, 2023 - 12:09 am

I never want to be in that feeling but your tips are good for the situation. Hopefully I won’t need to use it.

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 12:33 am

I hope so too and thank you for reading!

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Janice Mariano-Pratt April 3, 2023 - 1:42 am

These are great tips! and all the quotes are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing!

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 2:20 am

I appreciate you reading and commenting your thoughts.

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Karalee April 3, 2023 - 1:52 am

I have definitely felt defeated before, and this is great advice on how to recover from feeling defeated. It is good to have a support system and journaling can be helpful!

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 2:20 am

Yeah, journaling is a good way. Thank you for reading!

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Monika April 3, 2023 - 2:02 am

Great post, love those quotes! ☺️

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Fransic verso April 3, 2023 - 2:34 am

That’s awesome, thank you so much!

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Monidipa April 3, 2023 - 2:37 am

The quotes you’ve shared are really good.
and your points are really good.

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:59 pm

That’s great, thank you for your lovely feedback.

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Stephanie April 3, 2023 - 5:56 am

Excellent information in this article on recovering from feelings of defeat. I think at times we don’t even recognize the feeling.

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:59 pm

Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.

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Jennifer Prince April 3, 2023 - 7:18 am

Mental health is so important, and feeling defeated is really common. I’m glad you’re bringing it to light because so many folks struggle with it.

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Fransic verso April 5, 2023 - 12:00 am

Yeah, many has been or going through it. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts!

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Lindsey April 3, 2023 - 7:25 am

Such a great read! One quote that stuck with me. “Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.” So good!

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Fransic verso April 5, 2023 - 12:01 am

Thank you for your feedback. That is great quote.

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Aleksa April 3, 2023 - 7:56 am

Thank you for a very informative post. I easily feel defeated by life in general and I really need advice on how to get out of the hole I usually dig for myself. Thank you for this!

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Fransic verso April 5, 2023 - 12:01 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your feedback with us.

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Anita April 3, 2023 - 8:20 am

I love the suggestion to write things in a journal. Journaling is a huge thing for me. It’s such a great way to clear your mind and get your thoughts in order. Great info!

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Fransic verso April 5, 2023 - 12:01 am

Thank you for your feedback about this and the time to read this post.

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Nyxie April 3, 2023 - 8:39 am

I needed to read this today. Honestly, I’ve felt so deflated and sad the last few weeks. I thought it was hormonal, but I think it’s burn out coming back to bite me in the bum.

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Fransic verso April 5, 2023 - 12:02 am

I’m glad to know that. Yeah, you need to take care of yourself. I’m sorry you felt that. Good you know what is it now.

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Ntensibe Edgar April 3, 2023 - 10:06 am

Oh yes, I have…in the last few moments. Many times, I open up the tv series folder on my laptop and watch away back to being super-motivated. It always works.

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Fransic verso April 5, 2023 - 12:03 am

Yeah, its good way to be motivated. Thank you for reading!

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Tracy McHugh April 3, 2023 - 10:36 am

Loved this post, especially the Van Gogh quote. This is exactly where I am right now and these were really helpful reminders.

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Fransic verso April 5, 2023 - 12:03 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts!

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Morgan April 3, 2023 - 10:41 am

I think we all go through times where we feel defeated – this was an awesome post with great ways to help. We need to normalize things like this! Thank you!

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:58 pm

Thank you for your lovely feedback. I appreciate you reading!

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Amber April 3, 2023 - 11:09 am

It is so normal to feel defeated from time to time and knowing that you can pull yourself out and succeed is a great thing to remember. Great post.

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:57 pm

Yeah, it’s easy to feel that. Thank you for reading!

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vidya April 3, 2023 - 12:55 pm

Surrounding ourselves with supportive people is so very helpful. When I feel overwhelmed in my blogging journey, seeing the comments on my posts definitely give me the boost to keep going

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:57 pm

Yeah, having support from people is good. Thank you for reading!

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Kristen Osborne April 3, 2023 - 1:11 pm

This is such a wonderful post. Feelings of defeat are so complex and ever changing. It can be highly difficult to understand and come out the other side. Thank you for sharing.

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:56 pm

Yeah, it can be difficult. Thank you for reading!

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Mila R April 3, 2023 - 2:02 pm

I don’t recall feeling defeated for a loooong time, but thanks for advice for time I might need it!

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:55 pm

I see, thats awesome. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.

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Andrea April 3, 2023 - 2:54 pm

I love that you’re bringing this into awareness. The journaling suggestion is fantastic!

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:55 pm

Yeah, thank you for reading and sharing your feedback!

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Julie P. April 3, 2023 - 3:16 pm

I love all the great tips in this post and the focus on what you can do to feel better. This, too, shall pass, right? Your honest way of writing is so beautiful.

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:54 pm

Awesome, thank you for reading and commenting!

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Abby April 3, 2023 - 3:41 pm

I love how you tackle these real issues in such a practical way.

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:36 pm

Thank you so much! I try my best haha.

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Drew Alexander Ross April 3, 2023 - 4:31 pm

Another great post! Love the breakdown as always, and love the quotes– F. Scott Fitzgerald in particular.

Thanks for sharing!

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:35 pm

Thank you so much! Glad to know you loved the quote.

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Julie April 3, 2023 - 6:14 pm

I have to say, your vulnerability and honesty in this post about feeling defeated is truly inspiring. It takes so much courage to share our struggles with the world, and you have done so with such grace and authenticity. Your words truly resonated with me, and I know they will resonate with so many others who are going through their own battles. But what I admire most about your post is the way you end it – with a message of hope and resilience. You remind us that even in our darkest moments, we have the power to rise again and keep fighting. And that, my friend, is the mark of a true warrior. Thank you for sharing your story with us, and for reminding us all of our own strength and resilience. You are a true inspiration.

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:35 pm

Thank you so much! I really appreciate your amazing words and am glad to know that it was inspiring.

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Pastor Natalie (ExamineThisMoment) April 3, 2023 - 8:14 pm

Great tips with wonderful encouragement. ????

Pastor Natalie (ExamineThisMoment)

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:34 pm

Thank you for reading and commenting!

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Laura Levitan April 3, 2023 - 9:58 pm

Great article on healing. Thank you for sharing.

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:33 pm

Thank you so much!

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Eleanor Jones April 4, 2023 - 4:08 am

Great post! I think feeling deflated can be one of the worst feelings. It happens to me in winter sometimes, but the sunshine or light always makes me feel better. Thank you for sharing these tips here 🙂

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:33 pm

That’s awesome, I agree, it happens to most of us. Thank you for reading!

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Sonia Seivwright April 4, 2023 - 9:46 am

I journal my way through anything. It’s better out written on paper than being stuck in my head.

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Fransic verso April 4, 2023 - 11:31 pm

That’s awesome, and I agree with you. Thank you for reading!

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Jenny Marston April 5, 2023 - 2:26 am

Think we probably all feel defeated at times, it’s all about making sure it doesn’t get the best of us. Great tips.

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Fransic verso April 8, 2023 - 6:47 am

Right? it must’ve happened to us before.

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Clarice April 5, 2023 - 10:03 am

I guess this is something that happens to most of us. It’s actually quite common but what’s important is that we learn to stand up and fight again. Thank you for sharing these tips. I agree with you that having a support system truly helps. Having our family around us can make a difference.

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Fransic verso April 8, 2023 - 6:43 am

Yeah, it’s something that happens to a lot of us.

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Renata Feyen April 5, 2023 - 2:02 pm

I try not to let negative feelings take the upper hand in my life, so that I don’t feel defeated to often

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Fransic verso April 8, 2023 - 6:31 am

That’s awesome. Thank you for reading!

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Social media tips April 5, 2023 - 7:51 pm

refreshing to find content designed to help people thanks for the amazing tips

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Fransic verso April 8, 2023 - 6:27 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your lovely thoughts.

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