Hello everyone and welcome to a new post for this week. I’m back with a new relationship post. And this is one of the important topics in a healthy relationship. You will know about relationship check in questions. Please read through until the end because everything in this post is very important to get.
Also, I would love to know how many times you do a relationship check-in with your partner. Are you in a serious relationship? Hopefully, after this post, you will be able to maintain a good and intimate relationship with your partner. I’m going not just going to mention the questions.
30 relationship check-in questions to ask your partner
Table of Contents
- 30 relationship check-in questions to ask your partner
- Benefits of checking in on your partner
- Conclusion of 30 relationship check in questions to ask your partner
Well, before I start mention the questions. There are a few important that I want to share with you. Such as overthinking, doubting, and trust. Asking questions some people might think that is because of jealousy. That’s not right and I will explain the difference between jealousy and check-ins. This way, you don’t doubt yourself when trying to ask questions like the ones I will mention.
There are many questions we need to ask our partners and each other. However, I tried my best to mention to you the main and important ones. I highly recommend based on your situation and how things going with your partner. Please do not hesitate to ask questions and check in on your partner.
Q: What is the difference between jealousy and check-ins?
A: The intention of the question. You can tell the difference from the intention. Some questions can be intended to be jealous which is not good. However, that should not be your reason but to check in on your partner and make sure things going well. Also, how many times and the time of asking the questions can determine.
There are ways to prevent jealousy to get you. Whether you are a boyfriend or girlfriend. Make sure both of you have nothing to hide. And you need to mention what something you looking for from asking. If it’s jealousy, you won’t be able to do that. Tell your partner that it’s just to check in.
FYI
When you first tell your loved partner why you asking. She or he won’t have to overthink it. Sometimes people might think differently when it’s just relationship checkup questions. Don’t forget to mention why you asking your partner the questions and be clear. That help to develop good communication between the two of you.
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Now that I started first talking about that. Please ask your loved one without any jealousy. It’s one of the things that ruin healthy relations and can happen anytime. Even after a long time being together with your partner. Should never be jealous and only check in and ensure you miss nothing.

Q: What is the relationship check in?
A: Great question and I’m sure some of you have this one. The check-in is when a partner ensures things are going well with the other partner either daily, weekly, or even monthly. Usually, it starts with questions but sometimes partners just share news and how they feel. However, we need to make sure to not forget anything. It helps to build good communication with each other.
Important point
Check-ins are very important for anything in the relationship. Cheating can be the main cause of people not checking in on their partners. And I have many around that lacking doing this. You can work together on this to make sure both are in with everything happening. Improve your bond by following these relationship check-in questions.
Q: How many times do we need to check in on each other?
A: Good question if you have this in mind. Well, depending on the type of questions. Some of them are weekly, and some of them are daily. Maybe after something occurs you can ask. You need to know when to ask the questions and always have the intention to check for the better of the relationship and the partner’s health.
I think the weekly relationship check in questions can be more used. Because it would be the best time to check on each other. However, if you have something going on. Don’t mind if you ask daily and check in on your partner. I’m sure couples appreciate that as well.
Benefits of checking in on your partner
- Stay up to date with everything going on
- Know if something not going good
- Solve an issue before it becomes a big problem
- Make sure you both enjoy each other companies
- Ensure to help your partner first when they need

There are many good things that you can focus on doing this. And that’s the only reason why you need to ask any questions to your partner. Unless there are some trust issues or something wrong happened. That would be different and need to be handled differently.
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Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down. By Oprah Winfrey
Fall in love with someone who makes you glad to be different. By Sue Zhao
Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand. By Emily Kimbrough
I’m going to share as many important questions as possible. The relationship checkup is really important. However, I highly recommend you do the relationship check in questions more often. And if you found these helpful, I would appreciate it if you can share them with others as well.
Q: Why do you need to keep checking on your partner?
A: Well, sometimes we don’t share everything unless someone asks us. Therefore, it would be better if you keep making sure that you don’t let your partner suffer. It’s good to keep in the loop about each other. Nowadays, things can be toxic, and depressing. So, relationship checkup questions can be helpful.
FYI
The questions below are organized into categories and types of things that we need to pay attention to. Each one has many questions. And each one is really important to enjoy whether you guys are couples and feel loved. Have a lovely relationship with your partner consider asking your partner.

General relationship check-in questions
1- How do you feel about how things going in our relationship?
2- Mention things that you like and don’t like about how we do things so far…
3- What are the things we need to change to have a healthy relationship?
4- Are we missing something in the relationship?
5- Is our relationship fun and entertaining?
Intimacy and spicy questions
6- Do you enjoy our intimacy or should we change something?
7- Are we overdoing it? (sexual intercourse)
8- Do we have good communication during sexual intercourse?
9- Is there any new position that you enjoy?
10- From experience, what is your favorite position?
Future relationship questions check-in
11- How are we doing with our future relationship plans?
12- What are some of the things we need to work on for the future?
13- Do have plans to do it tomorrow, after two days, or any time in the future?
14- Are we ready for marriage or how do we get ready?
15- What are things we need to prepare for having kids or what do we need to develop for better parenting?
Finance relationship check-in
16- How are we doing financially?
17- Do we need to improve something to improve our finances?
18- What do you need to buy in the future?
19- Are you happy with how we deal with the money being together?
20- Do we buy everything we need or what else we are missing that we need?
Self-check-in on each other
21- How was your day today?
22- Is there anything bothering you or something want to tell me?
23- What are the things that upset you that I do?
24- How do you feel?
25- How are things going with you and the family?
Friends and people check-in
26- How are things going with your friends?
27- What’s new with you at work?
28- Are there new friends you talking with?
29- How are things going with social media and chatting?
30- Any plans with your friends or people?
Conclusion of 30 relationship check in questions to ask your partner

Thank you for reading until this point. Sharing some of the important questions couples, and people in a relationship can ask to check in on each other. Explained as much as possible about this topic and why we need to do it. Also, the difference between jealousy and checking in on your partner. Hope you can find these relationship checkup questions helpful.
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What are your thoughts on these check-in questions? Do you have any other important one that is not on the list?
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I love that you included a segment about the difference between checking in and jealousy – that’s such an important thing to consider.
Yeah, it’s very important for people to know haha. Thank you for commenting!
They are useful and relevant questions for friends and lovers.
Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts!
I completely feel communication is vital for relationships. These are some really great questions to facilitate an open dialogue between partners. Very interesting!
Right? it’s very important. Thank you for reading!
These questions will help so much to the people in relationships as with us 🥰
Great deep questions with the partner 🙌💖
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That’s good to know. Thank you so much, love <3 and I love you too <3
Communication is so important in relationships and you’ve included some great questions for checking in. Thank you for sharing!
I agree, it’s very important to have a good communication.
This is very relevant, i needed something like this now have to figure out how to bring it up in conversation
Tha’s awesome, glad to know it’s something that is needed for you. Thank you for reading!
Absolutely loved this read! Thank you so much for putting this out there. This is so important. I’m in a long term relationship, we don’t live together at the moment, so communication is key! He suffers with his mental health so we absolutely keep asking every serious question. He’ll always ask me how my day was and we are really honest with each other
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Another brilliant post 🎉. Checking in on your relationship is paramount. It’s a simple way to keep current with your relationship status. People change and other social factors so it’s a good idea just to check in and make sure that you’re both on the same page. As my grandmother always says, communication in a relationship is important.
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These are some good questions to ask; very insightful! My husband and I check-in with each other in various ways so this was a useful addition to that!
I’m glad to know that you find them great questions. Thank you for reading!
These are great questions to ask. Really thought provoking. Sending them to my hubby now!
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These are seriously fabulous questions every couple must ask in certain point of their relationship. Well thought-out post. Thank you so much for creating this gem.
I’m glad you found them fabulous haha. I appreciate you reading and sharing your thoughts!
I love to check in with questions. It always leads to meaningful conversations and they are way different from being jealous or keeping tabs on your partner.
Awesome, it’s very important to do check-ins. Thank you for reading!
As in any relationship, communication is always the key. Share your thoughts and listen to what the others are saying. The best question is: Are we overdoing it? ha..ha..ha..
Hahaha, good question. Thank you for reading and sharing your feedback!
This looks like a really extensive and detailed list of prompts for better communication with your partner! And it also gives you an opportunity not just to voice your thoughts, but to self-reflect as well.
Yeah, it’s very important to do both. I’m glad to know that you find a good one. I appreciate you reading!
Very interesting post and motivating topic, surely strenghtening the relationship..
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Some good questions to consider here. Always important to check in with each other daily x
Glad to know that you find it helpful. Thank you for reading!
This is such a great list of prompts for people to spark a true interest!
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Relationship check-ins are important for staying updated on your partner’s wants and needs. Thanks for providing questions 🙂
Yup, important to keep in touch and up to date with your partner. Thank you for reading!
I think when you live with someone, particularly for a long time, it’s easy to take things for granted. This was a good list, I can see several questions I’ll be asking my husband going forwards, thank you.
Yeah, I agree with you. We need to make sure to ask each other. That’s awesome you got something from this. Thank you for reading!
These are great questions to ask. I love the idea of having a check in every so often. When you’re a team, you want to make sure you’re on the same page.
Right? it’s essential we need make sure to check in on each other. Thank you for reading!
These all sound like reasonable this to discuss with a partner, and if you’re not able to, maybe you need to ask why that is, because healthy communication is important to a relationship
Yeah, we need to make sure that communication is very important. Thank you for reading!
These are great questions to ask and I love how you broke down all the Relationship Check in Questions by subcategories because sometimes we may be fine financially or with house work but our intimacy sucks. I will say that since you shared that the difference between jealousy and check-ins is intention, that in order to prevent a fight or misunderstanding these types of Relationship questions should be done in person or at minimum Verbally on a phone call. Since inflection is often misinterpreted via text or email that can often cause problems or confusion.
Yeah, thank you so much. I agree, we need to call and talk face-to-face. Because sometimes body can speak. I appreciate you reading and sharing your comment!
I love that you differentiated between check in and jealousy. I think checking in provides clarity in a relationship. Great example questions too because often we don’t know where to start with questioning.
Right? it’s important people need focus on it. Thank you for reading!
These are great questions. I bet a lot of relationships might survive if couples had open conversations about difficult situations.
Yeah, it would help to avoid cheating in many relationships. Thank you for reading!
This post is a wonderful reminder to check in. Not just with your partner, but with your coworkers, friends, family. It’s so easy to get wrapped up with things going on in your own world/head that you start missing the signs that something needs to be talked about. Thanks so much for sharing this post!!
I’m glad you find it a wonderful reminder. Thank you for reading!
Very useful and helpful suggestions to use at any point in the relationship. Thanks for sharing Fransic!
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I think relationships are so much better when we ask each other these kinds of questions. It makes your partner feel valued that you are truly interested in them while increasing communication and understanding. You hit the nail on the head with this one!
Yeah, we need to check on each other more often. Thank you for reading!
Communication is so important for relationships, asking those important questions and actually listening to the answers
Yup, we need to make sure that we are good at communication. Thank you for reading!
Love the various topics you covered.. I know I need to do financial check-ins more proactively from my side 🙂 so these questions help..
and love those quotes you included – especially the one by Sue Zhao
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This was so insightful, thanks for sharing.
I’m glad to know that you find them insightful. Thank you for reading!
Thank you for sharing! Great questions!
I appreciate you reading and sharing your thoughts!
This is a great idea! I love that you separated the questions into different types. What a great way to connect with your partner 🙂
Thank you for reading and giving us your thoughts about this.
Thank you for sharing the information. I honestly didn’t know that jealousy can be correlated with a check-in. Insightfull
Yeah, some people might see it as jealousy. I appreciate you reading!
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, it’s important to communicate with each other. It helps make the relationship stronger.
Yeah, it’s very important to keep in touch with each other.
I appreciate this post. Thank you for sharing!
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Communication is a very important part in a relationship be it about anything. The extensive questionnaire you have shared keeps a check on everything.
I agree with you and we need to make sure that we work on it.
Nnnniiiccceeee…I endeavour so much to ask these questions….like “how was your day?” but the first responses are always wanting!
Yeah, it’s nice to ask question and check up on each other.
Love this post, thanks for sharing! I really like the questions. Very useful information in this post.
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I think this would be great for any relationship! Such a good idea!
Glad to know that and that is the goal. Thank you for your feedback!
Little check-ins can mean so much when you’re in a relationship. I think asking how someone’s day has been is a great one- it’s so simple, but it can help someone to open up if they’ve not had the best day x
Right? it helps a lot even if it’s little. Thank you for reading!
Brilliant post! Communication is so important for all relationships thanks for highlighting this
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This a great post! the communication in a relationship is definitely what makes it work, when a couple express to each other their feelings, fears, opinions and their expectations of life they create the basis of trust and love. Thanks for share.
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Great list of questions. It is always better to check on each other (by asking the check-in questions) to know that you and your partner are on the same boat.
I’m glad to know that you found them great questions!
Enjoyed this post! These questions are important, especially the ones relating to finances. Sometimes it’s tough to talk about these topics because they’re uncomfortable, but I like this idea of consistent ‘check-in’s with specific questions. Thanks for sharing!
Yeah, it’s very important to make sure we check in each other.
That is a very good list and very helpful for any couple. Check-in with your partner is very good for a healthy and happy relationship.
Awesome, thank you so much for reading and sharing your feedback!