Challenges of Love from Afar: 3 harsh facts long-distance relationships

by Fransic verso
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3 harsh facts long-distance relationships and more important tips

Hello everyone and welcome to the second post of this week. A good reminder that time flies so fast. You better get things done now before tomorrow. Today I’m back with another relationship post. However, it’s going to be different this time. Because I’m talking about long-distance relationships and mentioning the 3 harsh facts long-distance relationships. This is something I have a lot of knowledge about because I’m going through it at the moment.

I want to share more than just facts. So, keep reading for these harsh facts and more tips to help you maintain a successful relationship.

Also, some information about the LDR which we will know what does mean. If you are not familiar with the term, I’m going to talk a little bit about it as well. If you find this helpful, please share it with others because it means a lot to me.

3 harsh facts long-distance relationships and more important tips

Allow me to start with some important things we need to know about long-distance relationships. It’s been increasing in being in long-distance relationships nowadays.

And it’s not really that difficult once you guys found your way to live and work together to be together. I see more and more people popping up on Instagram about being in a long-distance relationship.

Although we will talk about harsh facts and there is no way to say but to be clear with it. It’s also worth it if you really love each other.

These facts are not to scare you but to make you aware of it. You can find a way to make it easier on both of you and make it worth it. Sometimes the far person can mean more than the close one.

Q: Can you maintain a happy long-distance relationship?

A: It all depends on how much you love each other. And how far are you willing to go together? Overall, it is possible and you can enjoy it while it’s still there.

But don’t make it a forever thing because relationships require things need to be together physically. So, make sure to work on meanwhile maintaining it because it might not last for so long.

Woman talking on the phone.
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I will share some tips later in this post. That can help you to maintain it. And even have a good LDR because it’s possible to fall in love and be far from each other.

Sometimes people prefer to be with overseas friends and not with someone living near them. That for sure has its reasons. Please keep reading to know about these important tips!

Q: What does LDR stand for?

A: In relationships, I think some of you might know it. But it stands for Long Distance Relationship. And I’m sure at least of your friends is in a long-distance relationship. Which is something normal nowadays. People sometimes wait for years until they can be with each other.

When two love each other and they are far in distance. It doesn’t matter how long as long as they can’t see other each every day physically.

Then, it counts as an LDR. It could be far towns and also far countries. Maybe two different continents and still love each other like nothing else.

Since we are going to talk about the 3 harsh facts long-distance relationships. I’m sure some of you would agree about these. And still want to fight for the relationship.

I respect that because it doesn’t matter how far you guys are. As long as your lvoe is real, you will find a way to be with each other.

Things to consider to have a good LDR

  • There are many ways to make it fun while it last
  • Express your love in a variety of ways
  • Bond together as a team to work on it
  • Work on improving and adding creativity to it
  • Avoid making it more difficult for both of you as it already is difficult

Well, there are some things that can help you. Depending on what type of relationship you have. Sometimes you need more than another LDR need.

Therefore, make sure that you know what the relationship needs and do it. I just mentioned some of the important things that you need to consider.

Some of the list above is very important for a relationship. For example, avoid making it difficult for both of you.

Because long distance relationships are already difficult. Make sure to avoid arguing a lot. Making each other feel awful for disagreeing on something.

There are many ways you could make it difficult. Such as ignoring your partner or not being there when they needed you.

These could add more stress and make your partner feel like it’s impossible to continue. You need to avoid these things and make sure to make it as easy as possible to enjoy the LDR.

Here are some great quotes and reminders for you. If you are in a long distance relationship. These will help you to stay strong and hang in there.

Distance means so little, when someone means so much.

By Tom McNeal

Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.

By Erica Jong

Love is not finding someone to live with. It’s finding someone you can’t live without.

By Rafael Orti

“You have to go wholeheartedly into anything in order to achieve anything worth having.

By Frank Lloyd Wright

Long distance relationships are hard, but they’re also incredible. Well, if you can love, trust, respect, and support each other from a distance. Then you’ll be unstoppable once you’re physically together and live happier.

Many more amazing quotes as a reminder to help us go through this. Hopefully, these quotes were helpful to you. I love reading and keep reading them from time to time. Because they can make us remember and get some strength to keep going when it’s a tough time.

The 3 harsh facts long-distance relationships

It’s time to mention the three harsh facts you need to know. And there might be more facts and things to know about LDR. There will be three of them. Things are very important for long distance relationships. People can be aware of them but still go through with being in love and far from each other.

Lack of physical touch

There is more than just one thing in this one. The feeling of wanting to hug someone but you need to wait until you meet them. This is a harsh thing about long distance relationships. I could go on more and more about this but will leave you to that one. Because I’m a lot of us know this very well.

Read more on the blog: How to fix arguments in a relationship and avoid conflicts

Relationships require physical touch and physical intimacy. Things that make the relationship fun but it doesn’t have to stop you from fighting for your love and wanting to be together. Maybe it’s harsh but your love should be stronger to keep going and meet to make it worth it.

The timezone difference

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If you live in the country and have the same timezone. That’s wonderful and you don’t have to worry about this. But many places and cities have different time zones.

Even living in different on the same continent would struggle with the timezone. Whether it’s one hour ahead or more hours.

One of the harsh things you could deal with when your partner’s time is not the same as yours. Maybe you want to spend time with them before you sleep. But they are already sleeping or working when it’s your time to sleep.

Honestly, it’s a struggle for some people to spend time with each other. However, you need to figure something out.

Maybe find an ideal time to spend with each other. Try to free some minutes to spend with your partner even if it’s your sleep time. It’s worth being with your loved one and the person you love the most.

Being able to be by your partner’s side and help more

Another harsh fact about being in a long distance relationship is helping your partner. You can help if it’s emotional but if it’s physical that would not be possible unless you meet each other.

Feeling not being able to be there and help your partner feel awful. Especially, if something important to your partner.

It’s so easy to be by your partner’s side when having different timezone. Because your partner might need you when you sleeping. That is not a good thing to have in a relationship.

However, it’s something that can be dealt with in a different way. Maybe both of you can work something out.

Always stay available and keep your internet on. When your partner wakes you up, don’t be upset and check what they need. Check on your partner every day and a lot of times as well. You never know when they will need help. So, this is could solve the issue.

Important tips for long-distance relationships

I might’ve mentioned some good tips and solutions throughout this post. Hopefully, you noticed it as you keep reading, But now I want to mention some more things to pay attention to and do them. Because they help to maintain a healthy relationship for both of you.

Talk things over

When you want to be with someone over a long distance. I highly recommend that you talk things over. Plan how you go about your day. How to express love, and everything important. Sometimes you feel something, never hesitate to talk it over with your partner.

Each other plans for the day. Things that you want to do such as dates or fun times with each other over the video call. Many things you can talk over with each other. And it helps a lot to maintain a good and healthy relationship. Doing this means you guys are a good team.

Make it forbidden to hide anything or lie and pinky promise each other

It’s easy to hide things being in a long-distance relationship. But you need to make it forbidden in the relationship to hide something. Because no matter how long you will hide it. Things will eventually be revealed and it won’t be good for both of you or the relationship.

Lying always will destroy the relationship. Maybe your partner doesn’t know but once you start lying. The relationship is dying slowly but surely.

A pinky promise means a lot and breaking it will feel very awful. Something my partner and I do for most of things and it’s good to keep ourselves grounded.

Find solutions and not argue and find problems

We don’t look at the distance and think it’s impossible. Although it’s difficult we make the most of it. Working together to find solutions for problems. Spending time to learn about each other through video chat and being virtually together. Help us to prepare for the future.

Being far from each other doesn’t mean waiting until we meet. Maybe we are far but soon we will meet. It’s just temporary, so we work together to find a solution.

Practice a lot of things such as dealing with arguments. Ways to avoid problems and solve them as well. This will prepare for you a good and healthy relationship when meeting each other.

Read also: Ways to say hope you feel better and how to help

It’s all happy life living together, you will need to do some work to make it happy. So, working together while being in a long distance. Learning about boundaries and rules for the relationship.

Ways to deal with things in life is a great thing because it will be in real life if we live together. This will keep you busy from thinking about the distance and prepare for the future to enjoy life together.

The Reality of Distance: Coping with Separation Anxiety

Long-distance relationships can be filled with excitement and anticipation, but they also come with their fair share of challenges.

One of the hardest aspects to deal with is separation anxiety. Being physically apart from your partner for long periods of time can lead to feelings of loneliness, sadness, and even depression.

Coping with separation anxiety is essential for maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship.

One of the first things to recognize is that it’s completely normal to feel anxious and sad when you’re away from your loved one.

The distance can create a void that is hard to fill, and it’s important to acknowledge and validate your emotions. Ignoring or suppressing these feelings will only make things worse in the long run.

To cope with separation anxiety, it’s important to find healthy ways to distract yourself and keep busy. Focus on activities that you enjoy and that bring you happiness.

This could be pursuing a new hobby, spending time with friends and family, or dedicating yourself to your work or studies.

By staying engaged in activities that bring you fulfillment, you’ll be able to minimize the negative effects of separation anxiety.

Another effective way to cope with separation anxiety is to maintain a strong support system. Surround yourself with friends and family who understand and support your relationship.

Having a support network can provide a much-needed sense of connection and comfort when you’re feeling down.

Reach out to them when you need someone to talk to or lean on.

Additionally, it’s important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your feelings of separation anxiety. They may be experiencing similar emotions and discussing it together can help you both find ways to support each other.

Find ways to stay connected despite the distance, such as setting up regular video calls or sending each other thoughtful messages and care packages.

Knowing that you’re actively working on maintaining the relationship can alleviate some of the anxiety.

Communication Breakdown: Challenges of Staying Connected

Long-distance relationships require an immense amount of effort and commitment, and one of the biggest challenges couples face is the communication breakdown that can occur.

When you’re physically apart from your partner, it can be difficult to stay connected and maintain the level of communication that is necessary for a healthy relationship.

One of the main challenges of staying connected in a long-distance relationship is the difference in time zones. If you and your partner are in different time zones, finding a time that works for both of you to talk can be a logistical nightmare.

You may find yourselves constantly calculating the time difference and trying to squeeze in conversations during overlapping hours.

This can be mentally and emotionally draining, especially if it means sacrificing sleep or other important commitments.
Another challenge is the reliance on technology for communication. While technology has made it easier than ever to stay in touch, it also has its limitations.

Video calls can be glitchy or laggy, and the lack of physical presence can make it difficult to fully convey emotions and nonverbal cues.

It’s important to be patient and understanding when these technical difficulties arise, but it can still be frustrating and disheartening when you’re unable to have a smooth conversation with your partner.

Additionally, the lack of physical touch and intimacy in a long-distance relationship can create feelings of frustration and loneliness.

While technology allows for virtual intimacy, it’s not the same as being able to hold hands, hug, or cuddle with your partner.

This can lead to a breakdown in communication as you may feel like you’re missing out on important aspects of a relationship.
To overcome these challenges, it’s important to establish clear communication expectations and strategies with your partner.

Discuss what methods of communication work best for both of you, whether it’s daily phone calls, video chats, or even sending handwritten letters.

Find creative ways to stay connected, such as watching movies together while video chatting or playing online games.

It’s also crucial to schedule regular visits to see each other in person, as physical presence can strengthen the bond and improve communication.

In a long-distance relationship, communication breakdowns are bound to happen. It’s important to approach these challenges with patience, understanding, and a willingness to adapt.

By finding effective ways to stay connected and prioritize communication, you can overcome the hurdles that distance presents and build a stronger relationship.

Building Trust and Fostering Independence: The Keys to Success

Long-distance relationships require a strong foundation of trust and the ability to foster independence in both partners.

Building trust is essential for maintaining a healthy and successful long-distance relationship, as it allows both partners to feel secure and confident in the relationship despite the physical distance between them.

Trust is built through open and honest communication. It’s important to establish clear expectations and boundaries with your partner from the start. Discuss your fears, concerns, and insecurities, and listen to your partner’s as well.

By addressing any potential issues or doubts early on, you can work together to build a solid foundation of trust.

In addition to communication, trust is also built through consistency and reliability. Follow through on your promises and commitments, even if it’s something as simple as calling at a certain time or sending a goodnight text.

Consistency shows your partner that they can rely on you, and it helps to strengthen the trust between you.

Another important aspect of building trust is maintaining transparency. Share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences with your partner, even if they may seem insignificant.

By being open and vulnerable, you show your partner that you trust them with your innermost thoughts and emotions, and it encourages them to do the same.

Fostering independence is equally important in a long-distance relationship. It’s crucial to maintain a sense of self and pursue individual goals and interests.

This independence not only strengthens your own personal growth, but it also allows you to bring new experiences and perspectives into the relationship. It prevents the relationship from becoming stagnant and overly dependent on one another.

Encourage your partner to pursue their passions and support them in their endeavors. Celebrate their achievements and show genuine interest in their hobbies and interests.

By fostering independence, you not only show your partner that you trust and support them, but you also maintain a healthy balance in the relationship.

Ultimately, building trust and fostering independence are the keys to a successful long-distance relationship.

By communicating openly, being consistent and reliable, maintaining transparency, and encouraging independence.

You can overcome the challenges of distance and create a strong and fulfilling connection with your partner.

Trust and independence lay the groundwork for a lasting and thriving relationship, even when miles apart.


Q: What is the best thing to make long distance relationship works?

A: Great question. Well, working together toward a future and having both goals. Something my partner and I do and it helps us to keep going.

This means it’s temporary and we will meet soon. So we work both on it to make it easy for both of us. One of the best things helping us.

Q: Can you do something about these 3 harsh facts long-distance relationships?

A: Everything has a solution. So, it might be an issue or a harsh fact. But with working and planning with each other. You will make things easier on you both.

The tips I mentioned above can help you as well. Just make sure to find a solution for these and it will be good.

Q: Is it worth it to fight for a long-distance relationship and love?

A: It depends on what you do and how you both. Also, how much you love each other. These can play a big role in making it worth it.

Usually, people find it worth the wait and the struggle. If yours feel like it’s not worth it. Maybe it has a reason for that and you need to fix it.

Conclusion of 3 harsh facts long-distance relationships and more Important Tips

3 harsh facts long-distance relationships and more important tips
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Thank you so much for reading and I hope you found this post helpful. Mentioned harsh facts and tips to help you maintain a good relationship. Important things you need to consider and pay attention to when building your relationship with your partner in a long distance.

What do you think of these tips and information? Are you in an LDR? Share with us your thoughts about this post and your experience. It might help people who read the comments.

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Valery April 12, 2023 - 6:01 am

Great post! Long distance is such a challenge, I’m glad you have this resource available for people who need it! Thank you!

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 2:07 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts about LDR.

Tina April 12, 2023 - 6:36 am

Long-distance relationships are so hard! You’re. so right though, communication is the most important part.

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 2:05 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.

Fadima Mooneira April 12, 2023 - 7:00 am

Having a long distance relationship is not easy. I once tried. But it didn’t work. However, it is still a good experience.

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 2:01 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your experience with us.

Molly | Transatlantic Notes April 12, 2023 - 7:23 am

I share some key information and tips on my blog about long-distance relationships too to share my own experiences with it (the ups and downs and the pros and cons). It’s great that you are looking at this realistically and touching on the important things everyone must consider (preferably before starting something like this). The is useful advice for anyone in this situation!

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 2:00 am

Yeah, thank you so much for reading and commenting!

Christine April 12, 2023 - 8:23 am

I was in a long-distance relationship for 2.5 years. It was work but it was also exciting and fun. My husband and I lived in two different states. I lived in NYC and he lived outside of Philadelphia so the weekend visits were something to look forward to and it was the best years of my life. Now we are married. So, long-distance relationships can work out. Just like everything else, it takes commitment and hard work.

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 1:59 am

Yeah, that’s awesome, and thank you for sharing that with us.

Jennifer Prince April 12, 2023 - 11:39 am

I think a long-distance relationship would be so difficult. I think they’re more successful when the couple already knows each other really well because it takes commitment!

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 1:58 am

Yeah, I agree with you. Thank you for sharing that with us.

Unwanted Life April 12, 2023 - 12:05 pm

long distance relationships, like any relationship, can be hard. What helps make them work is good honest communication

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 1:57 am

Yeah, it is hard but we need to make sure to put in the work.

Kimberley April 12, 2023 - 3:13 pm

I have been in a long distance relationship for 3.5 years, before I decided to move 7000 miles. We are now together for over 13 years and it is well worth it. Definitely keep up open communication and find creative ways to surprise each other.

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 1:48 am

That’s amazing! Thank you for sharing it with us.

Amanda April 12, 2023 - 5:23 pm

I’ve never been in an LDR, but I imagine this article is helpful to anyone who is, or will be.
Love the quotes included too!

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 1:47 am

I see! Well, glad you think of it that way. Thank you for reading and commenting!

Jodie April 12, 2023 - 6:24 pm

I’ve never had a long-distance relationship but I’m sure this are helpful tips Fransic!

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 1:37 am

I see! Thank you for reading and sharing your feedback about this.

Bobbi April 12, 2023 - 7:56 pm

This was an insightful read. Thank you for sharing your thoughts; hoping your LDR is going well!!

Fransic verso April 13, 2023 - 1:33 am

Thank you very much! I appreciate you reading and commenting!

Dinah April 13, 2023 - 3:32 am

Interesting article, and I agree that the most important part is talking it through.

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:36 am

Thank you for reading and commenting!

amias yusuf April 13, 2023 - 4:08 am

Learnt so much. Thanks.

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:36 am

That’s awesome! I’m glad to know that.

Nyxie April 13, 2023 - 4:22 am

My husband and I were never long-distance, but I was in one a number of years prior to meeting him. It was difficult and ultimately being long-distance kept me from finding out the real person behind it long after I should have seen the signs. Fair play to anyone who can make it work, though!

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:36 am

I see. That’s interesting, thank you for reading and commenting!

Ntensibe Edgar April 13, 2023 - 7:08 am

Oh yeah! Many people say that long-distance relationships but over time, I have come to appreciate that school of thought. Many times, everything about them becomes too much in such a short time and we are left clueless on what to do.

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:35 am

Thank you so much! I appreciate you reading and commenting!

Maria Niezgoda Azanha April 13, 2023 - 8:45 am

Long distance relationship only work in my opinion if you have a perspective of being together. IT is important to then get to know the person when they are closer because they can be very many disappointments. I was in one and I thought we were a perfect couple until we started living together. Disaster! I realised I assigned magical quality to that person and vice versa, by not knowing them more in person. .

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:35 am

Yeah, if we are looking to be together for a long time. Thank you for reading and commenting!

Sonia Seivwright April 13, 2023 - 10:38 am

I’m currently in an LDR. We’ve been together for 6 years. Honestly, This is by far the best relationship I have ever been in. One of the best thing i love about relationship is the communication and emotional support we give each other. We are consistent in the calls, video calls, texts message everything. I believe I have found my husband.

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:35 am

Ah, That’s amazing. Great you guys are doing well. Thank you for sharing that with us!

Monidipa Dutta April 13, 2023 - 12:06 pm

Been in one for a long time and it ended up bitterly. It aint easy practically speaking but again I have also seen people in LDR who had made it work. Your post is based of realistic facts. Well done.

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:34 am

Ah, I’m sorry to know that. Thank you for reading!

Sarah Collins April 13, 2023 - 1:14 pm

Really interesting post.

I have never attempted an LDR – i can appreciate that, like all relationships, communication is key to making it work.

Thanks for sharing

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:34 am

Thank you so much! It’s not easy to maintain both. Thank you for reading!

Renata Feyen April 13, 2023 - 3:24 pm

I’ve also been in a long-distance relationship for a while, but luckily it wasn’t for a very long time, because it’s pretty hard. We saw it through though and have been married for almost 35 years now

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:32 am

That’s awesome, you guys did well. Thank you for sharing that with us!

Beth April 13, 2023 - 5:06 pm

It is definitely hard to maintain a long distance relationship. I could not because of the harsh facts that you mentioned.

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:31 am

Yeah, it is and we need to work on it. Thank you for reading and commenting!

Lani April 13, 2023 - 10:14 pm

I had an LDR experience. It has its pros and cons. It involves a lot of compromising as misunderstanding tends to happen often. But the space is also great for both parties to grow individually and together!

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:30 am

Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts with us.

Lil April 14, 2023 - 6:57 am

A great read. I myself have been in a long term relationship and know the challenges that can occur.

Thanks for sharing.

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:26 am

Thank you so much for reading and commenting!

Rose Ann Sales April 14, 2023 - 8:03 am

These are all really great and very helpful tips. I’m gonna share this with my sister who’s in a long distance relationship

Fransic verso April 15, 2023 - 3:23 am

I’m glad you found them helpful. Thank you for reading!

Jenny in Neverland April 16, 2023 - 2:30 am

I admire anyone who’s able to maintain and be happy in a LDR. I couldn’t do it!

Fransic verso April 18, 2023 - 8:22 am

Right? It’s really difficult and we need to do a lot of things to keep it going.

Roaring Pumpkin April 16, 2023 - 5:15 pm

great tips & love the quotes. I had one long distance relationship. But it wasn’t with the right person so soon fizzled out.

Fransic verso April 18, 2023 - 8:14 am

Thank you so much! I appreciate you reading and commenting!

Karalee April 17, 2023 - 2:12 am

I was in an LDR for a year, and I lived in the US while my partner lived in Denmark. It was challenging because of the time zone difference and not being able to physically see each other. However, we made it work and we’ve been together for 8 years now! Communication is so important and being honest with each other!

Fransic verso April 18, 2023 - 8:14 am

Ah, that’s awesome. I’m glad to know that. Thank you for reading and commenting!

Dynamic Agents April 18, 2023 - 6:09 pm

never understood how long-distance relationships could work I guess it take a certain personality type for this to work

Fransic verso April 20, 2023 - 1:04 am

Yeah, it takes work and dedication to make it work haha. Thank you for reading!

Raji April 23, 2023 - 1:52 pm

Interesting read! I’ve never been in an LDR, but these tips would definitely be useful for those who are!

Fransic verso April 26, 2023 - 1:20 am

I see! Thank you for reading and sharing your feedback!


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