Hello everyone and welcome to a new post. I’ve been gone during the weekend because I had some issues to deal with. However, now I’m back and today’s post will be interesting. Something you might’ve heard of it before. Probably said it to so many people as well “Mind your business”.
Well, I’m not going to just share the meaning of it but share three situations and how can you react to them to avoid conflict.
There are many situations where someone could say this for many different purposes. And I want to share about that as well to help you understand how to go about this.
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How to react to mind your business and avoid more conflicts
I think many of us can agree this phrase can sometimes affect someone’s feelings. And one of the situations will demonstrate that for you.
If you are the one saying it in any of these situations. Please make sure to say it in a different way not to sound too aggressive.
Before I start this post and share everything about this topic. I want to share some main things about this we should know.
Another thing we can agree on is sometimes better that we mind our business and go about our days doing our things.
However, that is not the case in some situations and with some people. I’m going to talk more about that in this post as well.
Q: What does “Mind your business” means?
A: Let’s start with this good question. And the meaning is simple which is not to bother with others’ problems or things.
It’s a common English sentence people say to make others stop getting in with their problems and things in life. Sometimes can be understandable and we should avoid it.
There are some special cases that I called that. Because it’s important to stick with a person even if that person doesn’t want to do so.
Please keep reading to know that and learn the main purpose of my writing about this.
Sometimes forcing yourself into someone’s business can help make others’ lives better.
When I mention “Forcing” I’m not saying aggressively force yourself into someone’s business. Well, that wouldn’t be good because it would hurt your friendship if you are friends.
Maybe get yourself hurt and something we don’t that happen. I highly recommend you read this post carefully, please
When you can say this phrase:
- When a person tries to mess with your feeling or ruin things
- Someone Interfering with your things for the purpose of making things worse
- If the other person is not helping and keeps bothering you when you try to do things
- Their main purpose is a humor and joking when you are serious about doing stuff
- Strangers who know nothing but keep forcing themselves for their own reasons and not helping
I want to mention some cases because of the ones on the list above. You have the full green light to say this phrase.
And I want to share some examples to help you understand how to use this. However, sometimes people might not listen to you and you need to do more than just say that.
Feelings when saying this phrase:
- Feeling upset
- Someone is bothering or trying to make things difficult for you
- Angry and someone trying to talk about something
- Mad at someone or because of something and others try to talk about it
Most of the time we tend to use this when having the feelings above. Sometimes can be more based on the situations but commonly that is how we would feel and makes us say “Mind your business”.
As you can see, that is the time we might lose control and say something we regret.
Q: Does “Mind your business” hurt others’ feelings?
A: Good question! I’m glad you have this in mind. The answer is yes and it can hurt others’ feelings.
If the person is nice and has good intentions. Saying that can crush their hopes of trying to help.
A person when trying to do good will try to force others to help others even when they didn’t ask.
However, on the other hand, if someone is trying to make things worse and have bad intention.
They won’t care about that too much and sometimes can keep going and bother you more.
Well, in that case, you can ask for help or avoid them as much as possible. Don’t keep fighting or arguing with them because it’s waste of time.
Please be careful even when you not feeling good. If the person has good intentions, you can say it in a different way.
This way, you won’t hurt them and make it worse. It’s nice to make them stop and allow you to do your things while not hurting their feelings.
Whether it’s a family member trying to help or friends. Even if that is a stranger.
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Before I mention the ways to say “Mind your business” I want to mention some famous quotes said by people. And also proverbs about this topic.
A man is likely to mind his own business when it is worth minding. When it is not, he takes his mind off his own meaningless affairs by minding other people’s business. Said by — Eric Hoffer
Mind your own business. But love your neighbor as yourself. Said by — David C. Hill
“Keep your nose out of another’s mess.” It is a Danish Proverb
“That the birds of worry and care fly over your head, this you cannot change, but that they build nests in your hair, this you can prevent.” It is a Chinese Proverb
Minding your own business is generally good. Unless you are asked for help. Offering help is good and need to know when you can offer it.
Be ready to help but never get into a situation where it will hurt you and make it worse for you. This is from a perspective if you are the person who is told to.
Q: How to prevent myself from getting into someone’s business?
A: Honestly, good question and I asked myself before. However, I’ve already got the answer. Well, you remain calm and control your thoughts and feeling.
Even if you feel like you want to help others. Always keep reminding yourself that you can’t help others when they didn’t ask for it.
Sometimes people can’t control it but force their help. Well, this is talking about me. I always wanted to help but learned that I can’t do that.
You either win and help the other person or get butt kicked and get hurt by the other person for what they say and do to you.
Q: What to do when the person hurt your feeling when you trying to help them?
A; Another good question. Honestly, sometimes it can feel hurt if the person is a special one to you. But don’t overthink it.
You need to understand that they need to handle it on their own. And you can be available to help when they ask for it.
Make sure to let it go and let them do it their own way. Slowly back yourself off and be quiet because arguing more and being violent is not going to help both sides, you know.
Being a good person is always appreciated by the right people. Even if you get hurt by what the other person said.
Don’t make it worse with your reaction. It’s good to just let it be and be quiet if the other person doesn’t want any help.
Ways to say “Mind your business” without being too aggressive
We all know that this can be said in many ways to be careful. You need to reject the help from others who wants to help and have good intentions in a polite way.
So, I decided to mention some of the ways to do that. Both sides will win when trying to stop this in a good way.
1- I appreciate your help but I got this on my own
Person A: You need to follow the steps
You: I appreciate your help but I got this on my way.
2-Thank you for trying to help but you don’t need to get involved
Person A: I’m sure that person doesn’t need it to be done like that. Here is a better way…
You: Thank you for trying to help but you don’t need to get involved.
3-Please stay out of it and let me handle it myself
Person A: This is not the best way to do it. Let me show you how it can be done.
You: Please stay out of it and let me handle it myself
4- Thank you for hoping to help but if I need it, I will ask for it.
Person A: You won’t get the best results. I can help you to get better results
You: Thank you for hoping to help but if I need it, I will ask for it.
5- I understand you trying to help but I want to do this my way
6- Please allow me to solve it my way and if I need something, I will ask.
7-Thank you for your input and for trying to help
8- I appreciate your concern but I can do it alone
The phrase saying “Mind your business” can be general for anything but aggressive for all.
Well, if not aggressive for all, there are for sure better ways to say it. And I’m talking about the people who have good intentions but decide to get into your business and you don’t want anyone.
I added conversations to a few of them to give an example. Because each one can be said in different situations.
Depending on what is happening. Well, that doesn’t mean only what I mentioned but if you are in that kind of case because, for any reason, you can use these alternative phrases.
Situations when you say “mind your business” politely
As much as it’s not good to mind others’ business. Some people don’t deserve to be hut while they have good intentions.
So, these are some situations you need to remember to say politely. And this would people think of you in a better way. And the other person will appreciate that you didn’t crush their feelings in an aggressive.
A genuine family member and friend trying to help
Please pay attention when a family member or a friend genuinely wants to help. Although is not good to get involved.
That doesn’t mean crushing their feelings and hurting them. You can say in an alternative way that can’t hurt their feelings. Appreciate their attempt to help and let them stop in a polite way.
It just going to make them stop helping you forever sometimes. What if you want but you couldn’t ask? This can be helpful for you if that is the case.
Being polite is going to be a good way to keep them around without letting them get into your business.
When a stranger with good intentions
You never know what the stranger is going through when trying to help you. And it never hurt to say it politely to not get into your business.
Maybe trying to be polite will help the stranger understand not to get into someone’s else business. Don’t be aggressive in these two situations.
Remember I’m not saying to say it but the way how you say it matters a lot to some people. And this is the reason why I want to talk about this.
Some people might take it lightly and never get into your business or others. However, some people might get crushed especially, the ones you love.
Conclusion of How to react to mind your business and avoid more conflicts
Thank you for reading until this point. My main purpose of this post is to learn about the best possible situations when to say aggressively and politely.
Because it means something to others more. People with good intentions feel like they need help and that is why they get into your business. Treat people differently based on their intentions and reasons for doing it,
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